Ask Ariely: On Chips and Dips, Expectations, and Gossip
Here’s my Q&A column from the WSJ this week — and if you have any questions for me, just email them to AskAriely@wsj.com.
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Dear Dan,
While I’m watching sports, I often find myself with the same problem. I will have too many chips for my dip, but if I open up another can of dip I’ll have too much dip for my chips. I don’t want the extra can of dip to go to waste, but I don’t want to have to eat dry chips. What should I do?
—Chris
This is indeed an important problem! What you are experiencing is a problem with ending rules. The chips and dip each provide an experience for you that ends at a different time, making it hard to figure out when to stop.
One solution would be to convince the chip and dip manufacturers to bundle packages that complement each other in terms of size. Another approach would involve pacing yourself from the get-go in terms of the chip-to-dip ratio. A third idea would be to invite a friend who only likes chips (or dislikes the dip you have).
More seriously, the problem you are describing is part of a more general issue, as Brian Wansink shows in his wonderful book “Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think.” We don’t stop eating when we have had a sufficient amount of food, but when we’ve finished everything on the plate. The best approach may be to think about how much chips-and-dip you want to consume, transfer that amount to small dishes, and stop making decisions based on the size of the packaging.
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Dear Dan,
In “Predictably Irrational,” you wrote about the “Effect of Expectations,” and you demonstrated that we are prone to perceiving things as being more like what we expect them to be than as what they actually are. As an example, you showed that we would experience a glass of wine as better if we had seen positive reviews of it before tasting it. Well, these findings mostly fit with my own experience; however, what you didn’t mention is the possibility of a negative effect for expectations that are too good. In other words, is the effect the same when something is extremely overhyped?
My own observation is that when I passionately recommend a movie to my friends, sometimes their feedback is: “It wasn’t that good. I thought it would be really amazing.” I suspect that they’re experiencing a negative feeling toward the movie because I over-hyped it. Do you think that overhyped expectations can backfire?
—Omid Sani
My intuition is basically the same as yours. When I overhype something, I also feel like people end up with very high expectations (that is, assuming they trust my opinion) and that this can decrease their enjoyment of the experience.
Here is how I view the issue: Heightened expectations can change our experience by (let’s say) 20%, which means that as long as the increased expectations are within this range, the expectation can “pull” the experience and influence it. But when expectations are too extreme (let’s say 60% heightened), the gap with reality becomes too wide, and they may backfire and reduce enjoyment.
If you want your friends to experience something as better than it truly is, go for it and exaggerate. But don’t exaggerate by too much. This kind of “fudge zone” also suggests that in areas of life where people are not experts, you can exaggerate a bit more.
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Dear Dan,
I’m at a loss for understanding the popularity of gossip newspapers and magazines? What is the attraction??
—Dave
I don’t understand it myself, but I suspect that some of the attraction has to do with social coordination.
I have never been in a discussion where people said “I only wish we had more time to talk about the weather / sports / gossip.” But, given the need to find common topics for discussion, these are some of the easiest common denominators to find.
See the original article in the Wall Street Journal here.

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Omid,
Value is contextual. One man’s trash is another’s treasure.
There’s no such thing as overhyping something if you truly feel the way you claim to feel about it. If you happen to genuinely enjoy a movie (book/song/image), well that just means in the context of your life’s experience, your beliefs, values, biases, expectations, etc, the movie was of great value to you. Don’t downplay it with the expectation that your friends may not experience the same value from it. Unless you happen to share much of the same personal context, you’re not going to share the same movie experience.
When Dean Kamen “hyped” his Segway as a disruptive force in personal transportation he truly believed that’s exactly what he invented based on his worldview. As it turned out much of the rest of the world didn’t share his context and, consequently, they didn’t find the same value in the invention. It happens. Does that mean Kamen overhyped the Segway? Not in my opinion. Does it mean you overhyped the movie? Again, no, not in my opinion.
Be true to yourself and don’t worry that your friends/family/coworkers may not share your opinion about every experience.
Naturally this also means you should experience something for yourself even if your friends tell you they didn’t enjoy it. Never assume that you’ll share the same experience.
@jqp It’s hard to disagree with your simple message. In fact I don’t believe I do disagree. I do, however, think that being true to yourself is only part of a full life.
If I give a review I’m trying to influence someone, and at the same time give a gift. Say I want my brother to watch a certain movie because I loved it and I want him to experience it too. From experience, and later experimenting, if I fully express how I feel–it is now my all time favorite movie–and if he doesn’t come to the same conclusion, then he is disappointed. He may not even like the movie because of the disappointment, not because he would natively dislike the movie. On the contrary, if I play it down, I’m much more likely to hear he was pleasantly surprised, that it was a good recommendation, but he thought it was much better than I mentioned. In fact, it’s on his top 10 list. Then we can bond over how great it was.
A metaphor might help. I have a friend out of work and desperate. I mention a job lead with a salary of $40k/yr. How does the friend feel when later offered $30k? or $50k?
Yes, there’s a certain happiness that comes with being true to yourself. But the only consideration is the effect my communication has on me. There’s more happiness when I also consider the effect my communication has on another.
I haven’t checked lately since becoming a vegetarian, but I seem to recall that hot dogs regardless of brand came in packages of 10, but hot dog buns came (also regardless of brand) in packages of 8. I always thought this was incredibly stupid.
I’ve found that most brands of vegetarian hot dogs tend to be sold in packs of eight.
Does this make marketing a business pretty well impossible? As reality is always going to be different from the perception that they have, how can the product or service ever meet (or exceed) someone’s expectations?
Or is this why many successful business people say to exceed expectations after every sale?
Not necessarily. Marketing isn’t always about setting high expectations. Surfing shop has slogan “We don’t suck like they do.” Nike’s “Just Do It”.
Sometimes explaining intentions helps. Motel advertises “We put in new beds to help you sleep better.” will not backfire like “You will absolutely sleep through the night on our Nasa designed beds.”
Fear can be an excellent seller. Sign on a gun store “Get your assault rifle before we run out or they are outlawed.”
However, putting aside all the marketing alternatives to setting expectations, a business can still exceed someone’s expectations by not revealing all the goodies. Zappa set the expectation that you could find shoes you liked in your size. The CEO specifically chose to not reveal that shipping was overnight. It’s the mint on the pillow, the flowers in the restaurant, or in my wife’s case, the clean bathroom.
Another way to exceed expectations after setting them is simply to meet the expectations. In my business customers have been so disappointed with past experiences that when my team delivers on time and on budget, they say we exceeded their expectations.
I think that how one is raised affects eating habits a lot. I was raised with the “Clean Plate Club”, required to finish everything on my plate (the amount and what it was decided by my parents), and as an adult I have horrible problems with not finishing everything, even if it means stuffing myself uncomfortably. Being able to take a doggy bag home helps, but that isn’t always possible.
On the other hand, I raised my kids with “eat when you are hungry, stop when you’re not”, and even as adults they have no problems leaving food behind, and neither do they have the issues with weight that have plagued me for most of my life.
Now if I could just get my in-laws to stop pestering them about leaving food behind.
just imagine some steps in your process, so instead of finish the entire process, just finish a step.
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