Why We Lie (from WSJ)
Why We Lie (from the WSJ)
We like to believe that a few bad apples spoil the virtuous bunch. But research shows that everyone cheats a little—right up to the point where they lose their sense of integrity.
Not too long ago, one of my students, named Peter, told me a story that captures rather nicely our society’s misguided efforts to deal with dishonesty. One day, Peter locked himself out of his house. After a spell, the locksmith pulled up in his truck and picked the lock in about a minute.
“I was amazed at how quickly and easily this guy was able to open the door,” Peter said. The locksmith told him that locks are on doors only to keep honest people honest. One percent of people will always be honest and never steal. Another 1% will always be dishonest and always try to pick your lock and steal your television; locks won’t do much to protect you from the hardened thieves, who can get into your house if they really want to. The purpose of locks, the locksmith said, is to protect you from the 98% of mostly honest people who might be tempted to try your door if it had no lock.
We tend to think that people are either honest or dishonest. In the age of Bernie Madoff and Mark McGwire, James Frey and John Edwards, we like to believe that most people are virtuous, but a few bad apples spoil the bunch. If this were true, society might easily remedy its problems with cheating and dishonesty. Human-resources departments could screen for cheaters when hiring. Dishonest financial advisers or building contractors could be flagged quickly and shunned. Cheaters in sports and other arenas would be easy to spot before they rose to the tops of their professions.
But that is not how dishonesty works. Over the past decade or so, my colleagues and I have taken a close look at why people cheat, using a variety of experiments and looking at a panoply of unique data sets—from insurance claims to employment histories to the treatment records of doctors and dentists. What we have found, in a nutshell: Everybody has the capacity to be dishonest, and almost everybody cheats—just by a little. Except for a few outliers at the top and bottom, the behavior of almost everyone is driven by two opposing motivations. On the one hand, we want to benefit from cheating and get as much money and glory as possible; on the other hand, we want to view ourselves as honest, honorable people. Sadly, it is this kind of small-scale mass cheating, not the high-profile cases, that is most corrosive to society…..
For the rest of the article, please see the WSJ

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I saw the snippet of the matrices in the online version of this article at the Wall Street Journal. As someone who is into both match and solving puzzles, I’d love a chance at trying out one of your tests at home, and I bet there are many others who would enjoy it as well. Do you have a sample version you could post on your site?
I think the Status Quo Effect also works here. I often leave my office keys in the lock but the door is locked. If the door was not locked the “thief” could say “the door was open.” Entering an open office is not as bad as turning the key of a closed door.
Aaah Dan!!! Now I can justify why I cheated in those tests in school
Wonderful piece, Dan. Though shouldn’t it be called “How We Lie” instead of “Why We Lie”?
Reblogged this on HR Perspective.
Your research seems to show that keeping the general public more honest is related to cultural norms and reminding people of these norms does help in persuading more honesty. It reminds me of a joke, although it may be stereotypical in it’s viewpoint (and any commenters are welcome to disagree with these stereotypes), it is meant to emphasize how you can persuade people to do things based on their culture:
The Titanic is sinking, so it is very important that the passengers get off the ship as rapidly as possible. How does one do this?
You tell the Americans that they will be ‘heroes’ if they jump….(patriotism)
You tell the Germans that it is a rule that they must jump….(laws)
You tell the Japanese that everyone is jumping….(consensus)
Not everyone will agree with this, but I have lived in all of these countries and believe these motivations do/did have an effect on behavior.
Dear Dan,
Great piece, as always, and I am looking forward to the book.
In the meantime, can you please send me the reference for the study you mention about how depleted people cheated more?
Thanks,
Marc
I enjoyed this – thought provoking as always. And, ah, guilty as charged.
Thanks, Dan!
This weekend I was looking over my 5 year old kindy kid’s work books and homework diary (! I live in HK, it’s crazy here) and I realised my husband’s initial on the the homework diary looked odd, and was in pencil. Sammy had been forging it when we forgot to sign it (most of the last week). (He’d done the homework, but we were out when he remembered about the sign-off). When I asked him about it and whether it had occured as a wrong thing to do, he said his heart said maybe he shouldn’t, but the rest of his body (brain included) said it was a good idea. So he went with the majority opinion.
Over the years I have met quite a few people who claim to be honest and value honesty above all else. My response has always been “We all lie. You’re lying to me right now. What matters most is what we choose to lie about and to whom.”
Hi Dan,
Ever the applied researcher, I’m wondering how I can use your integrity-code prompts to get my teenager to tell me the truth about his homework…
I’ll experiment a little and if I notice anything, report back
Hi Dan,
Can we turn this research question the other way round? Why we don’t say the truth??? Suppose people were never told about the rewards but irrespective of any number of matrices they solved they were all paid the same amount would it reduce lying or increase it. As someone who comes from a country where corruption is rife this kind of research is of great interest to me.
In my own opinion people lie to get ahead whether that means getting more money, getting that job they desire. I believe we need to ask the question if honesty can get us ahead, why lie. People are honest because laws compel them to but the complexities of everyday life do not reward honesty so the need to lie.