In Praise of the Handshake
Imagine that you and I meet at a party, and I tell you about my research on behavioral economics. You see opportunities to use the principles to improve your business and think we could work together. You have two options: You can ask me to collaborate, with a handshake promise that if things work out, you’ll make it worth my while. Or you can prepare a contract that details my obligations and compensation, specifies who will own the resulting intellectual property, and so on.
For most of you, the decision is obvious. The second approach, the complete contract, is the way to go. But should it be?
The idea of making a deal with a handshake—what we generally call an incomplete contract—makes most of us uncomfortable. A handshake is fine between friends, but when it comes to vendors, partners, advisers, employees, or customers, we believe that incomplete contracts are a reckless way to do business.
Indeed, firms try to make contracts as airtight as possible—specifying outcomes and contingencies in advance, thus lowering the chances for misunderstanding and uncertainty. But complete contracts have their own flaws, and business’s increasing dependence on (I would say, fetish for) absurdly detailed contracts in every situation comes with its own downside.
All contracts deal with the direct aspects of the expected exchange and with unexpected consequences. Incomplete contracts lay out the general parameters of the exchange (the part that we shake hands over), while the unexpected consequences are covered by social norms governing what is appropriate and what is not. The social norms are what can motivate me to work with you, and what would establish goodwill in resolving problems that might arise.
As for complete contracts, they too specify the parameters of an exchange, but they don’t imply the same adherence to social norms. If something is left out, or if circumstances change, there’s no default to goodwill—it’s happy hunting season for all. When we use complete contracts as a basis for working together, we take away flexibility, reasonableness, and understanding and replace them with a narrow definition of expectations. That can be costly.
A CEO of a large internet company recently told me about one of the worst decisions of his career. He instituted a very specific performance-evaluation matrix that would determine 10% of his employees’ compensation. Before this, the firm, like most, had a general agreement with its employees—they had to work hard, behave well, and were measured on certain goals. In return they were rewarded with salary increases, bonuses, and benefits. This CEO believed he could eliminate the uncertainty of the incomplete contract and better define ideal performance.
The complete-contract approach backfired. Employees became obsessively focused on meeting the specific terms of their contracts, even when it came at the expense of colleagues and the company. Morale sank, as did overall performance.
Even lawyers see the risks of complete contracts. As part of my research, I asked the dean of Duke’s law school, David Levi, if I could take a look at the school’s honor code. Expecting a detailed contract written by lawyers for lawyers, I was shocked to find that the code went something like this: If a student does anything the faculty doesn’t approve of, the student won’t be allowed to take the bar exam. It was, in essence, a handshake agreement!
“Imagine that a student decides to deal drugs and raise chickens in his apartment,” Levi said. “Now suppose that our code of conduct bans many activities but doesn’t address pot or chickens. The student has honored the code. But does Duke really want that student to become a lawyer?”
Complete contracts are inevitably imperfect. So what’s better: a complete contract that mutates goodwill into legal trickery, or an incomplete contract that rests on the understanding we share of appropriate and inappropriate behavior?
This post first appeared on HBR


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I think that this isn’t an ‘either or’ question. And most certainly I would favour some form of written communication that is agreed upon by both parties. Certainly it helps to be able to go back to a piece of paper and remind yourself of what the original objectives of the arrangement. And I also think that each parties position of power during the negotiations may come into play as well.
But it is in adverse times where you see the problems. And then you are down to different interpretations/understanding of social norms.
The examples that you give also focus on two very different, I think, things. In the Internet company example the motivational aspect which as you and Dan Pink have both pointed out may lead to blindness towards other aspects of your responsibilities, and here, gets twisted under the new arrangement. And in the Duke example where the School would be trying to enforce “proper” behaviour (the motivational aspect being that the right to finish their law degree gets taken away from students, immediate long-term effect). But the problem here is that there is an enormous responsibility/power given to the enforcers of this honour code. And with power comes corruption.
So, a formal contract yields to the one negotiating from a position of power the opportunity to squeeze out as much as possible, while on the other hand the informal contract may reverse the favorable position and allow underperformance/delivery to the weaker party.
Example: “No I will not add this to the deliveries, we didn’t agree on it, if you want it it’ll cost $XXX extra” No matter how obviously “this” was implied during the negotiation period.
If you’re a member of a non-dominant group, a handshake agreement with members of the dominant group can be a disaster.
If each culture defines decency and honor in different ways, guess who prevails?
And if the dominant group decides that I’m not worthy of honorable treatment, I’m screwed no matter how much effort I expend to keep the agreement.
For example, I would have a hard time trusting a handshake honor code from an institution like Duke that as late as 1956, allowed publication of a paper entitled “A Critical Analysis of the Wetback Problem,” and supported the Chinese Exclusion Act.
I totally agree that”If you’re a member of a non-dominant group, a handshake agreement with members of the dominant group can be a disaster”
Besides, different interpretations of a handshake agreement may lead to future disputes, the non-dominant group again will be the one to suffer.
I’d like to say a handshake is good enough but I’ve been around enough to get burnt. Handshakes only work when people feel social responsible and when they feel like you are equals — if you don’t have money or cultural capital handshakes will not work. Get it in writing.
When I rented a home in Santa Rosa, CA the contract was 8 pages long. It was just an ordinary house. When I moved out, there were several checklists, and letters back and forth about deductions from the security deposit. When I rented a home in Mexico, the contract was 1 & 1/2 pages, and after moving out – it was over, no back and forth. Recently, I rented a parking space in Mexico. No paperwork at all. Gave them money for the month and I got a key. They don’t have my phone, nor my address. Last night, I got a knock at the door. An older man (the owner of the parking space, but I hadn’t met him before; it was his daughter to gave me the key), found me to let me know I left the hazard/flashers on my car. I don’t know how long it took him to find me, but I live 2 & 1/2 blocks away. It takes me about 8 minutes to walk at a good pace to get to the parking lot. I didn’t know being alerted to my idiocy of leaving my flashers on was included in the handshake agreement we had with his daughter who rented us the space. I am thankful he found me. My battery still has a charge. Today, I will bring the family a nice cake to say, “Muchas gracias!”
It’s a good observation, but be careful not to fall into a false dichotomy. Both the handshake and the airtight lawyer-review contract are forms of voluntary cooperation. You could say the handshake is a loose contract.
It is correct to point out that both kinds have some benefits and some costs, and that one is not necessarily superior to the other.
Note that rather loose contracts are common in firms too: full employment contracts are quite non-specific (what work will be delivered, how hard you will work, etc.).
Julien, I must say what you wrote above makes a very good point. Be wary of falling into the tyranny of OR. right?
Anyway, I wonder in what case you think a loose contract could be more appropriate, compared with the airtight one?
When does a mere handshake suffice?
Whenever participants deem it appropriate
I would succumb to the fatal conceit if I tried to substitute my judgement to theirs (the participants have more knowledge of the local and unique conditions).
Personally, I use handshake when more personal and long-term relationship and risk is not so large. Some examples would be house maid, ping-pong coach, loan to a friend, etc.
Then I assume you mean a loose contract is very hard to apply, when it comes to a business deal, where there is a relatively short relationship beyond the personal aspect.
I think we should take some disturbingly high risks by taking a LEAP OF FAITH, if we ever try to strike a deal with a handshake in and of itself.
Yay, Kelly…
Integrity, trust, adaptability, civility…
What is wrong with chickens?
Roosters.
(If he was only raising hens, no-one would know.)
Chickens aside, I think this is why we are seeing an increase in mandated arbitration for conflict resolution.
Good article, Dan.
I’m not sure how you are interpreting Duke’s honor code as a handshake agreement, though. A handshake agreement implies that if a disagreement occurs down the line, the two parties will work toward a reasonable resolution together, based on mutual trust.
But what you described from their honor code isn’t like that at all. It basically states “we will decide the outcome of all disagreements. That is absolutely a complete contract. I think you were mislead by the fact that it’s a very simple one.
Dan, I’m guessing you would feel differently if less of the people you’d dealt with acted honorably. I wish we lived in a world where we could rely on hand-shake agreements more, but I don’t think that’s how society works, at least in the US.
Further thoughts: http://allyourcode.wordpress.com/2011/02/20/in-writing-please/
I can’t but help think that this analysis of contracts is missing the important element of bargaining power. Yes, it is definitely to Duke Law’s benefit to have a vague contract, because the ambiguity allows Duke to penalize the student for anything Duke finds offensive, giving Duke a tremendous amount of power in the school-student relationship. The student, on the other hand, having almost no bargaining power (Duke is not going to change its honor code per the request of any single student), could be quite unhappy with the vagaries of the code (for instance, it is quite common for schools to punish students for exercising their free speech rights and publicly complaining about the quality of their teachers).
Also, a contract does not necessarily have to be particularly long to be specific. A talented, experienced attorney knows the universe of contract issues that could possibly come up for any particular kind of deal. The best ones hone in on the issues that are most important to both parties and clearly spell out the remedies in the most likely situations that could lead to conflict, short circuiting disagreements before they can put the business relationship in jeopardy. This can often be done with brevity. The fact that sometimes we do a poor job of precluding potential conflicts with overly long, unhelpful agreements should not let us lose sight of this worthy goal.
Unfortunately it still seems that we need this binding contract full of nuances and what if’s so that lawyers need to feel included. I am currently reading Drive by Daniel Pink where he speaks about the opposite effect that we should have on employees and their incentives. The contractual agreements aren’t heartwarming at all hence the lack of love for them. As you have read above it shows.
One might consider that while many marriages are entered into with nothing much more defined than a handshake, most that are ended are ended under the family law equivalent of binding contract discussions.
In other words, the law has grown to decide what people won’t do for themselves.
In business, contracts are the equivalent of laws that determine how property is divided when a marriage ends, only the participants get more say-so in how the law is written.
I’d warrant that, even if you entered into an arrangement “on a handshake,” there’d be a contract in the wings once the $ value of your work together approached a month’s salary for the participants. At least there would be the second time you tried this.
In the diamond industry, people seal their deals with a phrase: “I give you Mazal”
They say it and agreement is solid. I am not in the industry, so i can’t speak to when things go sour, but I think “giving someone Mazal” is what we want from a handshake.
I am always surprised that academics identify boundaries within which lies the ideal solution but always advocate one of the 2 limits. Does the ideal solution have to lie at either extremes? Does one have to yield to the dichotomy of either perfect contracts or plain handshakes? Why cant it be a combination of the two?
Not to get all game theory on you
but I think the answer depends on if it’s a repeating relationship or not. If I’m making a one time agreement with someone I don’t know then I would like something in writing that tells me what each party is committing to. If I am making a long term agreement with someone I know, then a handshake might be enough.
One caveat, when mixing business with family / love life, ALWAYS get things in writing. It’s never a good idea to get money and emotions mixed up with no clear proof of what each side is committing to.
A handshake is an agreement sanctioned by one’s social circle. Historically, paper agreements became popular and lengthy because of the weakness and geographical fragmentation of circles. That said, it would be very interesting if under “risk management” business and law schools would teach how to take risks in the right way, instead of how to avoid them. I would like to be taught the art of agreement through handshake by a master – perhaps from the diamond industry where I hear it’s 100% binding.
Great thinking!
It explains two further points for me:
1. Why Jewish marriage contracts are in the ancient language of Arameic (the less familiar a married couple are with the details of their contract, the more like a handshake the agreement becomes).
2. Why NHS doctors in the UK are so depressed about the new QUality Outcomes Framework regimen, which links their pay to specific achievements in their patient care (they miss the old honour code of the incomplete agreement).
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I think an ancient Chinese proverb sums it up neatly.
“Trust only those you don’t need to trust.”
In other words handshakes work if both parties know that it’s in their interest to honour the agreement.
That could be in a positive (rewards) or negative (punishments) way.
Would be nice to have peer-reviewed research on this.
As the old adage goes, some things are better left unsaid.