The Internet and Self-Control: An App To the Rescue
I have “a friend” who will head over to a coffee shop to get work done. Not because she’s unable to work at her desk or because she needs the presence of other people, but rather because it lets her get away from the Internet and all its distractions.
True, she could easily stay put by just keeping her browser closed. But that requires self-control, and as we all know, keeping ourselves in check is easier said than done. Whatever the resolution (start dieting, start saving, stop procrastinating, etc.) we routinely stick to it for a bit and then cave. We make the resolution in one state of mind – a cool, rational state – and then break it when temptation strikes.
That’s the reason for my friend’s coffeeshop strategy: precommitments allow us to commit upfront to our preferred course of action. In her cool, rational state, my friend can decide not to surf the web and make a point to leave the wireless behind; later, when temptation strikes, she’ll be out of luck. Access denied.
On the whole, I like my friend’s strategy. But there’s a potential problem: what if she needs the Internet to do her work? What then?
Not to worry – there’s an app to the rescue: SelfControl, a free Mac-only software program that blocks access to incoming/outgoing mail servers and websites and was thought up by artist Steve Lambert. (As the son of an ex-monk and an ex-nun, he’s well-versed in self-control.) The app only takes seconds to install and comes with all the flexibility that my friend’s coffeeshop strategy lacks.
Instead of taking leave of the Internet all-together, you can pick and choose what you can and can’t access, and for how long. If Facebook is your particular time-suck, then add its URL to SelfControl’s blacklist and the program will block Facebook and nothing else. If Twitter is another danger zone, then by all means, throw its URL into the mix. Next, figure out how long you want to block them for – anywhere from one minute to twelve hours – and move the slider accordingly. Then press start and you’re good to go.
But here’s the key part: once you click start, there’s no going back. (No wonder the app has a skull and crossbones symbol as its icon.) Switching browsers won’t help you, and neither will restarting your computer or even deleting the app. You won’t get those websites back until the timer runs out. As such, it’s as effective of a precommitment as seeking out a wireless-free zone.
Though temptation routinely deflects us from our long-term goals, our struggle with self-control isn’t a lost cause. Once we realize and admit our weakness, we can do something about it by taking on clever precommitments that save us from ourselves. In an ideal world we wouldn’t need the SelfControl app, but in this world it sure is useful.
Irrationally Yours,
Dan
P.S. For more on precommitments, check out this post on self-control and sex.

My latest book, The Upside of Irrationality, explores some positive and some negative ways that irrationality plays out in our lives.

Too bad there’s no Windows version…
There is now actually! I just finished making it, but give it a whirl
It’s called SelfRestraint and you can get it at http://parker.kuivi.la/projects/selfrestraint.html
I had tried SelfControl before and had trouble getting it to work consistently and wanted some more features. That’s when I came across Concentrate:
http://getconcentrating.com/
It’s has some really neat features including blocking certain internet sites. Plus you get 60 hours of time to try it out without paying.
nice parental block for kid users (or perhaps vice versa??)
Of course, I found it highly ironic that I was browsing this story instead of working …
“As the son of an ex-monk and an ex-nun, he’s well-versed in self-control.”
Wait, what? If he is, he didn’t learn it from his parents.
@Zara: Hah, yeah I was about to say the same thing. “Ex-” seems to imply that they didn’t quite care for that extreme level of self control.
Wish there were a Windows version of this app. I could use it. As evidenced by the fact that I’m here.
Another choice: Mac Freedom, which simply turns off Internet access. I use it (although obviously not right now).
In addition, Paul Graham wrote about this subject more generally in disconnecting distraction.
For the PC people, there are individual plug-ins available for some browsers, but again, it’s as simple as switching browsers to get around it.
There’s also a Windows version of SelfControl now called SelfRestraint http://parker.kuivi.la/projects/selfrestraint.html
Brilliant. My husband and I had discussed putting our router on a timer so we could not access the ‘net at certain times, but this is a much more elegant solution. Love it.
Precommitments seem to be quite effective devices for holding ourselves accountable especially to prohibit certain activities, as in the cases above where we can commit ourselves in the cool state and not go back. I wonder what similar cleverly devised strategies/apps we might utilize to hold ourselves accountable to doing future actions i.e. exercising, saving etc. Additionally, I wonder if there are any strategies to implement this without seeing ourselves as taskmaster and having the resulting ‘Jekyll-Hyde’ struggle. (Can we trick our Hyde instead of coercing him?) Or is this just an unavoidable aspect to self discipline? Suggestions?
For Windows computers, you can edit the C:\Windows\System32\drivers\etc\hosts file in Notepad to block web sites. For example, the following line will block facebook:
0.0.0.0 http://www.facebook.com
You can also add your mail server to block mail.
It’s not a complete solution since you can always delete the line, but it does add an obstacle to reach those sites.
Oops, correction: don’t add http:// to the entries in the hosts file:
0.0.0.0 http://www.facebook.com
Hmmm, actually I wrote the line without “http://”, the blogging software adds it automatically. How nice of it.
There is another thing called ‘state control’ instead of ‘self-control’ that I am experiencing here in China. When I had access to facebook and other social networking sites back in early 2009, I was really looking for some ways to get self control over the usage of this stuff. Then later chinese government decided to block these sites for their own reasons, first I got mad at their strategies but then I started getting feelings that to some extent, it makes sense to the guys like me. So the other day when I got the opportunity to browse my facebook account through a temporary proxy server and I found many posts un answered, I felt like its a good excuse to get rid of it and then I deleted my account.Bammmm thats it…. I am no more on facebook and have enough time to do the things that I actually wanna do.
You guys know anything like SelfControl for window? I really need it! It would be great if there is some program that blocks internet connection for a few hours.
“As the son of an ex-monk and an ex-nun, he’s well-versed in self-control.”
I don’t understand how having parents who couldn’t maintain their spiritual commitments makes one “well-versed in self-control.”
Just a thought …
Love this blog! One of my favorites … Thanks Dan!
Fun entry and I like the funny application: It reminds me of the scene in Young Frankenstein when Gene Wilder’s title character emphatically instructs his team not to let him out of the room with the monster … no matter what he says or how he begs. Of course, after entering the room and hearing the lock, the young doctor observes the very menancing monster, immediately changes his mind and begs his team to no avail. A very funny scene.
Along those lines, to what degree does regret (post action) reduce the chance of future committment? Are there any important factors that strengthen (or reduce) committment other than the 1-way exit door?
rescue time is a good alternative
Here’s another suggestion from “insiders”:
http://www.decisionsciencenews.com/?p=1305
rescuetime.com very similar for windows. worth the yearly fee.
You are right the key is to admit the things we do that are distractions, or weaknesses, or bad habits. Then a bit of self-compassion helps – so big deal you’re not perfect, welcome to the human race.
Having someone we have fessed up to as a supporter also helps. And practices, or routines that help us break habits. Without a regular practice that we can build on were will not break habits. If apps help go for it – even ones that give us no way out.
I use a kitchen timer. I set it for 25 minutes and work to that. That is my disicpline. It has worked well from school to now.
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The flip side of an app the blocks internet access is an internet site that aids precommitment. This is related to Dan Ariely’s comments in “Predictably Irrational” about a credit card with preset spending limits on specific categories. Banks have no motivation to provide this service (some entities can be rational at times). This tool is provided by Mint.com. You can sign up for a free account and provide them with the userid and password for your bank accounts and credit cards. (There are trust issues here. Check out their safeguards before you sign up.) After accumulating some history, this application will suggest budget amounts for different categories. You can set your own amounts if you choose. When you exceed a budget amount, you can have alert emails sent to two different email addresses. If one of them is a list server, there is no limit to the number of people who can be notified.
The story about the coffee shop reminds me of a great article at A List Apart about Habit Fields
http://www.alistapart.com/articles/habit-fields/
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that site does the same for Windows!
http://getcoldturkey.com/